how about we stop referring to relationships as “gay” and “straight”
like can we do that
can we acknowledge the fact that you can’t tell someone’s orientation from the gender of their partner
So, tonight in my belly dance class there were four new people, little girls probably around nine or ten. When we did shimmies I was rocking out as usual but the little ones were obviously having trouble and I wasn’t clear on why until the instructor stopped the music and told the girls to watch me.
She said, “That’s how the shimmy is supposed to look, that’s how your belly is supposed to move. You don’t clench your belly, only concentrate on your knees and hips.” And I realized that they weren’t shimmying properly because they were sucking their tummies in so they wouldn’t jiggle.
Now, I am easily the biggest person in my class and when I shimmy it is…impressive, to say the least. The instructor went on, “Look how she does it, watch the way her belly shakes, almost moving in a circular motion. That is natural, that’s the way her body is supposed to look when she does this movement.” Then she pulled up her tank top to show her little pot belly and shimmied along with me, and encouraged the little ones to try again, and we were all shimmying and jiggling together. When the instructor put the music back on and we all went back to shimmying, the little ones stopped holding in their stomachs and even laughed and tried to out-jiggle each other.
Proudest moment of my life? Maybe.